How to deal with toddler's temper tantrums
I'd like to wear my purple dress. No! you will wear your yellow dress. I will play with this No, please don't touch it. I'll have some fun with your phone. No, you must stop it! Here are a few scenarios from a typical day with a toddler.
Are your toddlers prone to temper tantrums? You might yell at your child because of their behavior. This scene is also extremely irritating, particularly if you are working or in a public location.
Mild tantrums in children aged 1-3 might lead to major tantrums. Grumbling is a regular occurrence in children. If their wishes are not carried out, they get disgusted, angry, and lost. Often, they shout, spew their food, stomp their feet, scream and cry.
While Infants are only capable of crying when they need something like they want to be fed or a diaper change or comfort they don’t throw a temper tantrum until they reach their toddler years.
Preschoolers who learn to talk and express themselves might minimize their tantrums as they grow older, if a teenager is reprimanded by their parents, the behavior may be described as rage or defiant rather than tantrum. They may cry or lock himself/herself to her room.
For Adults they can suffer as what we call bitterness, mood swings, and dissatisfaction over events that never occurred. Temper tantrums are more common in toddlers, according to the study. Parents must figure out what is causing their children's tantrums. Because, as their children grow older and are unable to control their tantrums, this may become a learned behavior that will persist.
Tantrums are a frequent child's behavior that occur when they are unable to voice their desires and are unable to obtain them. According to the findings, it only takes around 3-5 minutes, and they will stop when they have received what they want or have forgotten the source of their tantrum. However, parents should be reminded that the toddler’s tantrum lasting 15-30 minutes is alarming, which is not good for both the parent and the child.
When tantrums remain this long and there is a violent outburst, such as continuous crying, kicking the caregiver, breaking objects and a child can't settle down, the child may require more attention.
Parents with a toddler who are experiencing this often should speak with their pediatrician or a child psychologist.
Parents might benefit from these 7 tips on how to deal with toddler’s temper tantrums. These are important in order to reduce tantrums in toddlers.
1. It’s a child’s nature and a result of his/her young mind.
Let me also say to my fellow parents that we have all been through something similar. Let us not go along with our children's rage. Let us also maintain our composure. Because if we keep going, we will become more stressed and exhausted. Think about what’s causing the tantrum and, in this way, you can also find a better solution. You can also ignore your child's tantrums and let him or her vent frustrations.
2. Your tone of voice matters.
Always speak to your child in a loving and compassionate manner. When they're upset. Never scream, but always be firm. It's the same as spanking them if you yell at them. The child is more hurt, and he or she may feel terrified. When a toddler is yelled at, he or she is more likely to engage in bad behavior. Try to communicate with them in a nice manner and explain as much as you can using gestures so that they comprehend. Try whispering in their ears and telling them how much you love and care for them.
If your child has an unusual temperament, don't let this discourage him or her. There should be no harsh words, no gloomy expressions or any loud voice commands such as No, you can’t do this, No, stop it. Help them in a calm way.
3. Be patient to your child
Parents' impatience brings impatience in children. Some parents discipline their children harshly in an impatient and frequently enraged manner. Such modifications are ineffective. Parents must first learn self-control before successfully guiding their children.
When your child throws a tantrum and is enraged, you tend to speak and act rudely. Wait a minute before correcting him or her. Allow time for your youngster to ponder and for you to cool down.
4.The child must be calmed.
Toddler’s tantrums are more common and intense because they lack the ability to express their feelings due to a limited vocabulary. When the child is upset, we can't tell him/her to quiet up and stop sobbing. He/she must first calm down. Assure him/her that you understand his/her emotions. However, if your child is enraged and is striking, kicking, or biting you, you must intervene right away.
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You can take the youngster to his room to settle down, or to a bright and airy environment to divert his or her attention.
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Ask your child what she or he wants, do you like a yellow dress or a purple dress.?
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Emphasize to your child that hurting others is not a good thing.
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Encourage them to try again if the child feels frustrated after building a tower.
5. Distract your child's focus.
Toddlers' attention spans are quite short. They are easily irritated every time they do something or when you ask them to do something. They want to grab objects that catch their eye and pique their curiosity. So, if kids wish to play with something inappropriate for them, swiftly divert their attention with other toys, a book, or a coloring book or make a funny face. When they notice a chocolate sweet in a supermarket and want to quickly say, "Let's go to the fruits section and get some apples to put in our basket." Let's count the apples to see how many are there.
6.Make a plan and stick to it.
Make a routine for your child and stick to it as much as possible. For example, tell your child when it's time to take a bath, go to bed, nap, or play. In this way, it will become a habit. Children's temper tantrums can occur when they don't get enough rest or quiet time. To keep your child occupied, keep some hobbies and educational materials with you, such as a coloring book, educational toys, or healthy snacks. If you are going out to shop with your toddler avoid places that might trigger their tantrum.
7. Be an example to your child
Parents will be immitated by their child—Dad and Mom, you are teachers, and your child is the student. Your actions, manner, and attitude are all imitated by your child. Because child imitate the parents, it is important to provide him or her with appropriate role models. Parents who are kind and polite at home while also being firm and determined will see their child exhibit the same traits.
And lastly Parents, surround your child with an atmosphere of joy, kindness, and love above all else. A home where love is shown through looks, words, and actions...Parents, allow the sunshine of love, cheerfulness, and joyous contentment to enter your own hearts.
Note:
If you find any more concerns regarding your child, please consult your child's pediatrician immediately.
Sources:
https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/toddler/Pages/Aggressive-Behavior.aspx
Urooj 11 months ago